But what if….

but what if

Last Friday I was reading a post on The Blended Blog by Andrea whose blog home is Living on Cloud Nine. She featured some of her favorites from the week and as I read the post and followed the links I was captivated by the post Has Blogging Gotten out of Control? by Fashion on the 4th Floor. As I read the post I found my myself agreeing with every word. I especially loved that Diane actually googled and found this definition of blogging.

A blog is a frequently updated online personal journal or diary. It is a place to express yourself to the world. A place where you can share your thoughts and your passions. Really, it’s anything you want it to be. For our purposes we’ll say that a blog is your own website that you are going to update on an ongoing basis.” “A collection of posts – deeply personal – fresh – off the cuff.”

I needed to hear that definition. I needed to be reminded that in my heart of hearts I want to connect with people on a deeper level. I want to share my heart with my readers and I want to hear theirs.

What’s been on my heart lately? These words {but what if….} Why those words? Well, let me share some of my thoughts.

–One day my husband jokingly said one of my best qualities was my impatience. {ouch!} I won’t go into all the details. But what if….I was patient instead of impatient? I needed to be reminded of truth.

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–Almost every day my tongue gets away from when I’m traveling to and from work. Mainly it stems from the slow drivers in the fast lane. Oh my thoughts…oh my words. But what if…I offered them grace not knowing what they might be going through? Bless instead of curse? Yes, this is the truth I know.

…bless and do not curse. ~ Romans 12:14

–I completely enjoy working out and being challenged physically. My husband and I can get competitive with one another and it’s all good between us. But what if…I chose to leave that in the gym instead of let my competitiveness bleed into areas of my life where it doesn’t belong.

And here lies the real reason for this post. My impatience, lack of grace and competitiveness have been barriers for me in life, relationships and even blogging. Like most people I want to succeed in various aspects of life, like my job and blogging. I want to have faithful friends and want to be a faithful friend. I want to be a good mom and wife. But I fail. I fail often. Sometimes I withdraw and try to figure out where I’m going and answer the questions that roll around in my brain. Sometimes I want to give up on my passions…but what if?

But what if I simply remembered these other words {But God} Over and over in the Scriptures when times got bad and people got discouraged the next words are many times But God. One my favorite passages to remember is Joseph who was sold into slavery by his brothers and then sent to prison but all the while he was innocent. Yet, he said in Genesis 50:19 but God intended it for good….

Struggling is not fun. But the truth is I believe it has a purpose and is not in vain. Managing life’s struggles and disappoints face all of us. It’s part of the human condition. But God offers me grace {and you too} to get back up and try again. The introverted me is trying to get back up and accept a gracious offer of grace from the Lord and others in my life.

Today I will remember this truth.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 

~ 2 Corinthians 12:9 ~

~Carrie xoxo

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  • suzy w.
    Carrie, truly a beautiful message we can all take to heart! God's Grace is the greatest treasure to the least deserving, which is every one of us. Thank you for blessing me with your blog! Susan xxoo
    • Thank you, Susan! Yes, the greatest treasure to the least deserving hits home with the vastness of the truth.
  • Andrea Bili Fuchs
    Yes! I love this post! I have been struggling with exactly the same issues! Lack of grace, competitiveness and soooo much impatience! Just ask my husband!
    • And our struggles are never in vein and we struggle together is the beauty of the body of Christ. Have a great week!
  • What a beautiful, beautiful reminder! And a great way to think about the things that we want to fix about ourselves. You are an inspiration , friend!
    • Aww...thank you! It is my hope to inspire others.
  • Living on Cloud Nine
    If HIS Grace is enough for us, we should and could grant grace in the but what if situations. Wasn't Diane's post great and now if I was in charge of the loves this week, I would be including this post my dear Carrie as a favorite. So well written friend!
    • Thank you for your kind words. They truly blessed me!
  • Catherine Chanida Goodner
    Thank you for sharing your heart, Carrie. I look forward to your thoughtful posts. So very thankful for our God who sent the Egyptian slave traders on their route BEFORE Joseph was ever thrown into the pit. He provides before we even know we need provision! Blessings to you and yours.
    • He sees and knows the end and in that we can trust. We are blessed! :)
  • Katie Mitchell
    Love this post!! So many of your posts make me think and reflect....and they always seem to be what I need!! This post is certainly a favorite of mine already this week!!
    • Thank you, Katie! Your words truly encouraged me. :)
  • Laura
    These are all definitely things I struggle with on a daily basis. But the first step to changing them is recognizing that. Thank you for sharing! I needed these reminders to keep working on myself all the while remembering God's love.
    • I'm glad this post was helpful. That blesses my heart so much. Have a great week, Laura!
  • Beautiful post and I think it will make you feel better just to put those things down and out there. I think you're great
    • Thank you and yes, such freedom in being real and transparent. Glad you're my friend!
  • Yes! My "But what if" is "I don't strive for perfection?" One (of several) reasons I stopped blogging for a while. I feel a blog post coming soon... Thanks for sharing your heart.
    • Thank you for commenting Sheila! Glad to hear you venturing back into blogging.
    • Carrie
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Sheila. Good to hear you're getting back to posting.
  • Such a great post. I know all too well that the comparing game, striving for a perfect life (for me) can be a huge problem in my life. Sometimes I have to pull away from blogging or social media because it is so strong. Thank you for sharing what you go through! http://www.mylittlenest.org
    • Thank you, Ruth! Comparison is something I struggle with almost every day. It is such a destroyer! Thanks for stopping by today!
    • Carrie
      Thank you, Ruth for reading this post. I too continue to struggle with comparison. It is a destroyer that is for sure.
  • Caitlin Edwards
    I really enjoyed this post. it's a good remind to be thankful for your blessings and imperfections. but it's always good to know that God has our back no matter what!
    • Hi Caitlin! Thank you for sharing your comment on this post. Yes, being thankful and remembering God is for us is so important. Hope you're having a wonderful week!
  • This is such a great post Carrie. My pastor preached on grace this past Sunday and one thing that resonated with me was he talked about how we compare ourselves to others or put ourselves down or think we can't do something, but God chose us for the roles we take on, so we shouldn't feel like we aren't fit. Your post has me thinking about my what if...I tried harder, was more genuine and open (in terms of blogging). Lately that has been a driving force for me! Brooke Pumps and Push-Ups
    • Thank you for sharing this comment, Brooke. It really encouraged me and reminded me that I too want to be more genuine and open/transparent on my blog. We can do this! Maybe we should collaborate on those topics. :)
  • Ooohh, slow drivers in the fast lane, that's a tough one. But lots of times they are elderly folks, more elderly than I am, so I try to put myself in their shoes and realize that my time is coming. Thinking 'but what if' is a great way to refocus and to look at things from a different perspective.
    • Thank you, Leslie for reading this post!
  • Love this sweet post Carrie. I can definitely relate to losing my tongue and am positive my family would say I preach about patience but don't practice what I preach. Thanks so much for sharing and linking with Royally Waiting! Shelly|The Queen in Between