The Black White & Grey of Life


One of the desires of my heart is to be intentional with my blog. I have always wanted to be consistent and write about how life and faith intersect. I really want to share treasures from my heart each week and I’m working on making that happen in the future. Today is a day that I am excited to share from my heart.

So welcome my friends. I’m so glad you’re here! It’s humbling to me that people stop and read or subscribe to my little blog. I don’t take that lightly. I am so grateful for each and every one of you. Thank you for reading! I hope this post inspires you!

I wanted to share a little something that is going on in my work world. A co-worker is getting married in a few weeks. This particular female and I have struggled on and off to really get along well. It’s baffling to me why this happens because in real life she is much like many of my friends. But that is not the point of this post. The point is one of the managers has organized a gift for her wedding. Not only is this an opportunity to financial bless the couple but also to provide words of marital wisdom. Well, you know how that works don’t you? It’s “optional” but then again not really. For me this is one of those moments when I go blank. It’s like the “What’s your favorite color or favorite food, etc.?” I go blank and have nothing to say. At times I struggle with making an absolute commitment on something. That struggle is real for me.

Advice is the same thing. I’m blank! I panic a little inside but laugh it off on the outside while saying “I got nothing!” Thinking I’m off the hook but internally I know I’m most certainly not off the hook. I have to participate in this one. Yikes….Can I just procrastinate and pretend to forget and then it’s too late to participate? Answer: NO

In that moment lies the third time I have seen the Lord show up in my life this week. It’s been hard for me to see Him while I’m running in the opposite direction lately. But God…He is forever faithful. And here is where my post of sharing my heart begins….

Travel backwards with me for a moment and see His hand last week:

  • One ~ He totally answered a prayer that I wholeheartedly believed He would not. That prayer was answered on Thursday.
  • Two ~ On Friday morning while running an errand for work I encountered a man with a service dog. I greeted him and in passing mumbled “Hey, that’s a pretty dog”. He replied and added “Have a blessed day!” I made the decision to stop and converse with him. He was a Marine and he founded an organization {Heels the Heroes} to help vets with PTSD. Not a coincidence but a divine appointment. I was reminded of the life I used to have and dearly loved. The one where I sought out people and befriended strangers…maybe I can have that life again.
  • Three ~ He gave lots of words of advice. These words:
    • Life can seem black and white, yet grace finds its way into the grey areas where conflict can take root. Reach for the middle ground of grace when the corners of black and white rear their heads.
    • Life can be mundane and days are filled with never-ending minutia, but truly the days are long and years are short. Seek to find enjoyment in the midst of whatever lies in the moments because they disappear in the blink of an eye.
  • Four ~ Friday after work I showed up for a pedicure. I made an appointment with the same girl I also go to because she totally takes care of my bad toenails that would desperately like to be ingrown. She’s quiet and I don’t say a lot either. I feel a sense of guilt having someone do such a lowly task for me but in the midst of her work I begin to see her differently and think of ways I can bless her. She then starts to talk a little about her life here in the US. I am amazed and humbled. I have a plan…more about that another time.
  • Five ~ Saturday my hubby and I did our normal run and breakfast. Same menu and same waitresses but I love predictable so not a problem for me. Later we ventured to Target. My husband spotted Maddi. Maddi Moo as she was affectionately known when she was my student. We hadn’t seen each other for quite some time. Divine appointment? Yes, and an opportunity to reconnect and re-engage as we resettle in our beloved Denton.

So the Lord has been busy in the midst of just a few days. And with that, I’m back to the post and what the what on the marital advice. Did my fingers type that on the screen? Did I use my best cursive to write that a little note card? You betcha!

The Lord showed up in small simple ways but I knew it was Him. My hard little heart melted just a bit in those moments. I was reminded of his incredible to grace. What do those words mean in the economy of marriage? Here’s what I think:

Marriage is work. Two people who do love each other still have their own ideas and preferences and they most certainly do not see eye to eye all the time. No people will. That’s life. There will be times when grace will be the very thing that spares spouses from a destructive aftermath of major blow out. Grace says I love you and I can move and bend with you so we can both win for the sake of us. Us is always a better end than Me or I. That’s what I think.

Know what else I think? God most graciously opened my eyes to see him work in ways that reveal it is Him and not me. Plus He worked in ways that excite me…relating with people.

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Be blessed! ~ Carrie

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  • Lori
    Love this! Thanks for sharing. :) God truly is there every day and we just need to look for it and we will see it. :)
    • He really is there all the time but with the busyness of life it's so easy to miss Him.
  • Love when you share from your heart friend!
    • Thank you! These are my favorite posts to write.
  • Liked hearing about your week and all the ways God showed up in your life. If we look, we find him.
    • So so true! Thank you for reading!
  • I think all of my life I will still be learning the depths and facets of grace. "Reach for the middle ground of grace when the corners of black and white rear their heads"...a very timely quote I've written down!